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[quote=Anonymous]It's usually advised to stay on the SSRI that has been working/effective throughout the school years. If anything, he could lower his dose slightly and this is done by slowly tapering off. Stopping his SSRI could have resulted in the behavior you are describing.  If you can encourage him to take a slightly lower dose, that might be a compromise.  College has social and academic challenges, and it's not a bad idea to take the SSRI and revisit tapering off completely after college.

He might just be complaining or venting, and it's always hard to tell if they are just in need of a pep talk or they need to change course.  Anxiety shouldn't stop anyone from doing anything - going far away from school or accomplishing any goals.  So if the anxiety flares up from time to time, strategies can combat that and it will pass. What you have to look for is if he seems genuinely unhappy.  That is something different.  There are so many variables in college life -- next semester he could meet his best friend or girlfriend or feel really engaged about his classes or a new club he joins.  So much can change.  He would have to start over if he came home, so why not do the same things where he's already at -- this means asking someone new if they want to have lunch or dinner and putting himself out there.  I would say give it one more semester before making any decisions.  It's very common to feel uncomfortable at college and that typically means you are growing.

Regarding the financial piece, maybe you and his father can try to have a conversation about keeping this between the two of you so it takes the weight off your son.  If it's too complicated or not possible, just reassure your son it will all work out and to focus on his studies.

I'm sorry you are going through this, but I think when our kids get super stressed, they often feel like quitting.  As a parent, we get worried and stressed, but I think with reassurance and encouragement, they get through these bumpy patches.

But if he gets very depressed or makes any worrisome comments, don't hesitate to act quickly.  There is nothing wrong with changing course and having him commute from home.

I wish you and your son the best of luck and hope things turn around soon![/quote]

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