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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here . . .I think she had some doubts going into the marriage but she didn’t trust herself to know what love was supposed to feel like. She loved her DH like a friend, but that was it, but she didn’t know better.[/quote]

She was immature when she got married and I suspect she's immature now.  She doesn't know what she wants other than not to come second to the job.  I get the last part, but why change now?  [/quote]
Maybe because she’s not dead yet and still wants to live some of her life the way SHE wants? Jfc there’s a lot of people telling a very unhappy person to stay with the person making them unhappy. I don’t get it. We get one life. If she’s sick of being treated like an indentured servant she should take her half and go live her life.[/quote]

DP.

How is he making her unhappy?

You get one life, yes. And PP is advising OP not to help her friend screw that life up over a fantasy. It's okay if her friend divorces. It will probably be a mistake, but she will be fine ( or as fine as possible for her given that she is does not seem to be all there).

Imagine explaining to your kids that you are dragging them from. One house to another every week because you were not in love.

She is probably not going to find " true love". And even if she does find "true love", it will not overcome the drag from dating down financially,  step parenting, resentment from her children, resentment from her friend ( her current DH), and resentment from her family,

What she needs is a gang of girlfriends to have fun with. If DH is too busy, enjoy life with other people. Take the kids on grand vacations. Take friends too.

Now if her DH is an ahole other than being a boring friend who does not give her enough attention, then she might be happier leaving. Otherwise, she is probably better off staying put and finding some hobbies and wealthy friends who have time to enjoy life with her.[/quote]

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