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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 9 year old has a few different friend's houses he can walk to, and does so often, or they walk here. Sometimes I will text the parent to ask "are you free this afternoon" but more often the kids just initiate on their own. I'm very happy to have kids ring the doorbell. If it's not a good time I say "thanks for coming over, Larlo can't play right now" and they say OK and come back the next day.

We have 2 neighbors who I'm not super close with but they have similar age kids, and my son will often join in their outdoor play, but almost never approaches their home, just sees them if they are already outside.

After age 8 I think play dates should be child led when possible. The parents demanding an advance warning text are odd to me. Im thankful I dont have to be in the middle of my sons entire social life. Its good for kids to figure this stuff out.[/quote]

Why is it odd to want communication if you are dumping your child on someone else. It’s odd to me you have your kids knock on others doors and demand to be let in.  You should call, invite the kids over and supervise.  You want free childcare.  Sometimes if a parent is out with their kid to spend time with them, they don’t want to be babysitting yours. [/quote]

No one is demanding anything. If my son knocked on your door you could kindly say "now is not a good time for us" and he would say "ok" and would leave.

I don't need free childcare. The kids usually end up at my house tbh and I don't mind at all. When I have somewhere to be or something else to do I tell the child to head home.

At this age I prefer my child to initiate and follow through on their own plans, and also to learn that sometimes you knock and the answer is no and that's fine.

The only play dates I get involved with are ones that require transportation, like Im taking a group of kids bowling or something like that and need to plan the date and time and logistics in more details. Otherwise if they want to play they can find a friend and make it happen.[/quote]

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