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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you say no to the drop ins, send kids back to their own house for lunch/dinner, tell your kid each family has different ways of doing things. This really isn’t so hard.

[b]I do feel bad for the child with autism who is already being isolated by other families.[/b] [/quote]

This stood out to me too. Yikes. Poor kid/family.[/quote]

+100 the kid is also in … PRESCHOOL. Those behaviors are normal for preschoolers who don’t have a social disability.

Our neighborhood is exactly the same. Some parents prioritize order and control and others like the care-free socializing and don’t mind chaos.  And the families set their own rules accordingly. [/quote]

DP. I think a kid is allowed to decide he doesn't want to hang out with a kid who hits and exposes himself, even if those behaviors are not uncommon in preschoolers.[/quote]

Reading Comprehension. The op is quite clear that her kid is NOT ALLOWED to play with him. Most older kids aren’t bothered by naked little kids. I actually find it weird that it bothers her so much. [/quote]

You're the one who needs to work on your reading comprehension.

OP: my son has [b]complained[/b] to me about a little boy in the neighborhood who pulls his pants down and shows his genitals or hits other kids. My son is no longer allowed to play with him, [b]nor does he want to[/b], due to the hitting.

I've bolded the parts you missed in your rush to be sanctimonious.[/quote]

You literally wrote “not allowed to” in your response.  Most kids don’t want to play with autistic kids. The op (and you, apparently) would rather take these moments to reinforce exclusion and ick principles than take the opportunity to say “Larlo, he’s FOUR and has a disability. Let’s talk about why his disability might cause him to act this way.  Ignore the behavior and be kind to him” 
Doesn’t mean he has to be his best friend. But such justified unkindness will show itself eventually. 
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If you think that forcing your kid to play with someone with inappropriate sexual behaviors is a good idea you are free to do so. I don't force my kid to be friends with anyone. Hope your choice doesn't come back to bite you.[/quote]

+1. My mother forced me to play with the weird kids. Maybe she was just trying to instill kindness in me, maybe she wanted to be a mommy martyr. Either way, I was exposed to some VERY inappropriate things.

My hot take is that if the parents know their child is exposing others / hitting others, they should be watching him 24-7. His “playtime” should be with an occupational therapist, not poor kids in the neighborhood.

Yes you should be kind to everyone, in the sense that you wave to him as you walk by and don’t make fun of him. But forcing your kid to play with that child?  Hell no. [/quote]

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