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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid hasn't asked to wear this stuff as of yet but several of the families we are close to have been having this conversation with their daughters so I've been thinking about my position on it.

I agree with all the PPs that there is no reason to interpret this stuff as sexual -- these are tweens, their interest is in this as fashion, not because they are trying to attract others. Also once there's a critical mass of girls dressing this way, it's about fitting in. It's like how in HS, the standard is super short dresses with sneakers for homecoming. It looks weird to me but the ALL do it -- it's just how kids dress these days. I'm sure what I wore to homecoming dances in high school would look stupid to them.

BUT my main objection to these specific items (the off the shoulder shirts and the belly shirts) is if they are items of clothing that girls are constantly adjusting. I have worn both of these items and they can just be fussy. Especially the off the shoulder top. Add in that these kids are in puberty so are sometimes wearing bras for the first time and their bodies are changing quickly, and it just seems like a headache to wear something like this to school. I don't want my DD at school focusing on making her neckline lie correctly or thinking about her shirt riding up.

[b]So my current stance is that if she wants to get clothes like this, I'm fine with it, but she can't wear it to school. She could wear to hang out with friends or to a birthday party or something. But at school she needs to wear more practical clothes that don't inhibit or distract.[/b][/quote]
This has generally been my take on this stuff too. I'll buy her whatever she wants to wear on weekends, but I do want her to wear comfortable, practical clothing to school.[/quote]

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