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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Love this conversation.  I think there are a lot of confounding reasons but I hate the positive narrative of estranging from family.

I feel like sometimes people are in a competition for whose trauma is worst.  Really enjoyed the book the Power of Being Disliked and its discussion of denying trauma.

Another idea to add would be the role of women as kinkeepers.  Women don't have the same ability or desire to continue to be the kinkeepers for both themselves and their husband.  [/quote]

Yes.   People and their boundaries are out of control.    [b]There was one post where the MIL told the family that her son and dil were having a baby.   They told her not to tell everyone and now they are estranged.   I mean who cares?   What kind of petty small minded people need to control an ordinary announcement. [/b]

Some people do have shitty parents, no doubt.   But so many young people have zero tolerance and are so rigid that they can’t just let harmless things go.  So the MIL told family members about a pregnancy.   No harm done so just let it go already.  [/quote]

The people who may have had trouble conceiving and/or have lost pregnancies in the past? WTH can't the MIL respect wishes? It's not her womb.  Boundaries only seem out of control to those who have no respect for them[/quote]

It’s not her womb?   That makes no sense.  There was no mention of miscarriages.   It was just a control thing and zero tolerance.    Yeah, get mad, say something, but too many people call these little things breaking boundaries and even trauma.  Grow up.   I’m sure the couple has done their share of crossing boundaries.  No one is perfect.  [/quote]

You sound like one of my mother's sisters. I grew up in a very abusive family and my mother did horrible things to me that my aunts are aware of. They will let you know that they are serious Christians. They think every claim I make about abuse is a lie even though they know about much of it. They believe that you never admit bad things happen, you never talk about them and you move on and act like life is a bowl of cherries. They would never stand up to any evil. They just act like it isn't there. To them there is no reason for me to put any distance from my family. They despise any person who speaks up about abuse. In 2025 they believe people should just keep their mouths shut. They constantly go on about this subject just like you and will ignore any abuse other than outright murder.

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