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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the bio parent (crazy ex-wife) is there: NO. If she is not there: ALWAYS! It works for us, because she lives out of state, has no custody, and maybe attends two events per year. [b]I am more of a parent than she will ever be[/b].[/quote] Her child doesn't think that. Her child wishes it was mommy doing all that, not you.[/quote] Not in this case. Mommy has untreated mental health issues (refuses treatment) and is unable to take of herself or the child. [/quote] Wow. Perhaps rather than bragging, "I am more of a parent than she will ever be," you might have some empathy for a person struggling with mental illness. My exH has bipolar depression. Due to his mental illness, he is not a great parent, but I recognize that he loves the kids and they love him. Sometimes it does frustrate me that I have to do all the parenting and have all the responsibility, much to my detriment. And I hate to see how his negligence hurts the kids. Then I try to remember that he didn't choose to be mentally ill and even the best therapy and medication isn't going to magically fix his issues. I try to remind myself that he is probably doing his best, and I try to be supportive within boundaries that are safe for us. I also try to remember that our kids have a higher chance of having mental illness. The way I treat him is the way I would want other people to treat my kids if they became mentally ill. Being angry and shaming a me tally ill person doesn't help them. Perhaps you could find some empathy for the mentally ill parent. [/quote]
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