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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was your daughter!
I was in college, on rebound from a brilliant guy who treated me terribly and started dating a 25-year-old townie who managed the local Blockbuster and worshipped the ground I walked on. My mother was absolutely disgusted and did not hide her disdain at all. In hindsight I stayed with him longer than I should have just out of defiance.
I also dated a promising, sweet law student who my mother slavered over. "He would be PERFECT in our family." I probably should have married him but it annoyed me that my mother kept pushing him.
I ended up with a good guy, college-educated but with no money. She liked him well enough until our kids were born and he still had (has) no money, now she bashes him regularly and it makes me not want to see her.
Just try to stay neutral.[/quote]

DD is here with her BF, and I'm doing my best to be as civil as I can do him!! He is a nice person, but no, I don't think he's her equal. But she does seem happy with him, so there's nothing I can say or do. I did pull her aside for a long chat about her ambitions and my fears about women giving up things to be with men. I've seen so many women curtail their ambitions because they don't want to best their partner. I do not want that to happen to DD. But if it does, that's her business. Sad, but there's nothing I can do. [/quote]

As long as he is kind, educated and employed with no addictions, leave it to her to decide. Relax, enjoy holidays and let her enjoy too. Everything doesn't need to be decided this week.[/quote]

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