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[quote=Anonymous]it took 6 months of sorting and cleaning and trashing the contents of my parents house (two hours away from where I lived) to get it sold while I had a newborn. I wish I could have just outsourced it all, but they'd lived there several years with dementia and I was still finding critical paperwork months into it. at least 6 dump trucks, a 30 yard dumpster, endless donations later and the winning buyer said I could leave whatever I wanted that was left. Fortunately we landed a daycare spot 3 months in, and I could use FMLA.

It sucks. It's heartbreaking and even worse when they aren't even dead yet.

I understand how two silent generation war/rationing babies ended up as hoarders. But all their life they would refuse to plan, refuse to budget, refuse to talk about being ill or what they wanted as of end-of-life. I had to blackmail them into getting wills and powers of attorneys done (they had needed me to pay their mortgage or else they'd lose the house), and once done would refuse to talk any more about it. If you'd ask them, they just expected that I'd quit my life and take care of them personally-- ignoring the fact that I was the primary wage earner for all of us, and also ignoring the fact that ultimately they got violent and paranoid and I couldn't safely personally provide care to them anyway.

I may not succeed in paring my belongings down to the minimum. But hopefully I won't leave my kid with such a pile of unachievable expectations, and I'm trying to keep my finances clear and straightforward. [/quote]

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