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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trust your gut on this one. I'd bring her to a psychiatrist for therapy, and also consider the neuropathy test. Girls aren't always identified with ADHD/anxiety/ASD, and this could be it. [b]An IEP will be helpful, even though she is doing really well.[/b]

We had to take this on ourselves, since my kid wasn't doing poorly in school. But now, a few years in, we know we did the right thing.

I'm so sorry. This is really hard.  [/quote]

A child doesn't just get an IEP, whether they have a formal diagnosis of anxiety or ADHD or ASD.  It doesn't work like that (nor should it).[/quote]

OP - what would an IEP look like for a kid who tests well and does well in school?

I am also so worried that we ruined DD during covid lockdowns.  She does not do well with change/unfamiliar schedules and during covid we had just had a new baby, ripped her out of her daycare and then started her in virtual kindergarten.  I had very severe PPD during this time that was untreated (due to covid policies) and probably was the worst parent ever during this time. Lots of yelling, screaming, disregulated household, etc.  I got treated for my PPD, my youngest started sleeping through the night and it got better but I am so worried that during this time we truly ruined DD and this is all stemming from that period of time. [/quote]

I was going to say earlier that the best thing we did for our child with anxiety is to end any yelling in our household, particularly yelling at our anxious child.  
There is no way I wouldn’t have been yelling or at least talking in a very irritated voice in the situation you described.  You have three kids who need to be out the door in 10 minutes.  Your husband is taking his time with his own morning routine, and your daughter is freaking out about her hair.  Other kids probably need to get shoes on and make sure their hair is fixed and backpacks are packed.  I would have yelled at either my daughter or my husband, and/or maybe one of the other kids if they decided to get in the middle of it or they couldn’t find their shoes or something.

You have to find ways to not set yourself up to fail like this.  For us, it meant more screen time at stressful times, pulling kids out of any activities that caused family conflict (ahem:: piano lessons), formalizing something we call “transition zones” getting into and out of the car, and prioritizing our marriage so that DH and I weren’t fighting.

You’ve got to find a way to fix your routines so that you aren’t in this situation.  Maybe getting a different hair routine is enough.  If I had to, I would go as far as putting my daughter in a private school near DH’s office and having him be in charge of getting her to school and back while you deal with the other kids.

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