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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you consider emotional support op?[/quote]

I’m not the op but here are some emotional supports I missed growing up:

-no hugs or words of encouragement, constant criticism.
- openly mocked by parents when I showed feelings that were too strong — too happy, too sad, etc.
- never asked how my day was, or anything about my life, as a child or as an adult. When I offer details, the topic is immediately changed. To this day my parents have no idea who my friends are, what I majored in in college, or what I do for a living, despite my trying to tell them.[/quote]

This. Especially the mocking. The tone of my household growing up was sarcasm and mocking. I learned to keep my true self very separate from my family in order to avoid having it ridiculed. I discovered in my late teens that sarcasm is NOT a sign of intelligence but insecurity. It took me years to evolve beyond it but doing so helped me develop actual social skills that led to functional friendships and relationships.

When I visit my parents and siblings now I'm still struck by how sarcastic and dismissive they are. With me, each other, their spouses and kids.[/quote]

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