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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did anyone grow up with parents who provided zero life guidance and emotional support/growth during their childhood and formative years? How did you deal? How did you learn the tools to have an emotional life and personal growth? Did your siblings learn?[/quote]

Mine tried according to their abilities and we don't hold them against idols of perfect parenting. [/quote]

True.   There’s no excuse for child abuse, none, but some parents had struggles and did the best that they could.

My mother’s mother had two children within two years.  She sent my mother to the country she grew up to live with her mother.  She kept the boy.  My mother lived in a poor rural area but it was a beautiful location and she was happy.   At 16 for reasons unknown she was sent back to the US.  No more school in the little one room schoolhouse.  Her mother still wouldn’t admit she was her mother so she arranged for her to be a nanny and she lived in a 50 room home with a super rich family.  She met my father and they married.

Her mother refused to tell her who her father was.   My mother’s brother who her mother kept was educated in the US went to a top college and was successful.

How could I expect her to be perfect?   She did everything for us, took us to activities, the beaches all the time.  But she never asked about school or how I was doing.  She never asked about college.

I still remember when I brought a signed note by my mother to high school and gave it to the teacher.  He looked at it and scoffed.  He said “my seven year old writes better than that”.   I think she was ashamed of not having a proper education so she just stayed away from it.

I could complain about her and say she was neglecting my school work but I understand and wish it had been different for me, but especially for her.  [/quote]

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