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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did anyone grow up with parents who provided zero life guidance and emotional support/growth during their childhood and formative years? How did you deal? How did you learn the tools to have an emotional life and personal growth? Did your siblings learn?[/quote]

I realized when I was very young that they loved my but where wrapped in there own issues.  Also, lacked the life skills to teach me.

I wanted better for myself, I started listening to other adults, following the news and reading a lot.  Now my life skills are so high that my parents can’t comprehend them.

My brother on the other hand is lacking them, but has a wife that makes decisions for him.

I try to teach my kids life skills and I going to set up a multi million dollar trust fund for them.  I may be over compensating. [/quote]

What are the life skills you mention? Do you mean investing and such or something more? What life skills can be learned from following the news?[/quote]

I had a family that was supportive, communicative, and great listeners. I married the opposite, I feel I gave too many benefits of the doubt to him.

But life skills by parenting- basically you narrate a lot of life and also demonstrate Adult Life at home with your spouse.

Teach and show your children how to clean a toilet, maintain a car, explain insurance, how to cook family dishes, how to navigate sports teams or friendships or school things. This leads into teaching to drive, care for a bet, divide up your study time, advocate for yourself at school or on a team.

Demonstrate adult life - not the terrible or scary parts, but enough at dinner or on the weekends. Adult life is talking about elderly care, what car to buy, how to plan a vacation, community service, resolving conflicts even amongst ourselves, home repairs, going to the lumberyard or Home Depot, how to grocery shop with a meal list, work out at the gym, celebrate milestones, etc.

If all your parents are doing is shipping you off to school, sitting at silent dinners and then watching movies 5 times a week, you are way behind in life skills an observed or taught.

My father is self taught. He was the oldest of 7 and grew up in a house where the mom was overwhelmed. Dad was off at the family job. His first roommate told him to pick up after himself. He looked around and realized not everyone lived the same way his family household was.

And he was brave enough to admit there were better ways of doing thing than his parent’s ways.

He vowed to do better, and did. And was still a good son, but with boundaries. 
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