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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your child knows how you feel about them.  For all the “but I love them” it sounds like you really don’t. You’ve posted many times here and I haven’t seen you say once kind thing about your child. Saying you love them then wondering if you’d be happier if they had never been born- that’s not love. And your child knows it. 
Try to fake gratitude for your child and you mom until it becomes a habit. It can make a big difference in your happiness. [/quote]

OP here. Well, right now I don’t feel so great about them because they’re being a jerk. But there are 100+ positive things I could say, but that’s not what this was about. It’s not a personal brag fest about my kid. But ok. They are very smart, kind (except to me), funny, artistic, have a good head on their shoulders, a loyal friend, can really make me laugh, pretty…I don’t know. Seems kind of silly because these are all the things most parents would say about their kids.

I never said I thought I would be happier if they hadn’t been born. I don’t regret having my child. I just wonder if I would have made the same decision if I knew all the painful feelings of them growing up and leaving and how it never really ends…that you will always worry, that they might not be great kids to you as adults. I was just looking through old videos and missing my kid when they were younger and happy. Been so long since I’ve seen my child really joyful and I don’t know why. Not for lack of trying on my part. It makes me sad. Wears me down. Just so hard and so can feel so sad. [/quote]

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