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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an honest question-
I am a Foreign Service Officer’s wife and for various reasons we are done with living overseas. I am facing a life back in DC which I am fine with but also starting to look for full time employment (which will be its own huge lift after many years overseas and no semblance of a career but that’s a different thread). I have two children and no family help. For those who have full time jobs, how on earth do you do it? If you work till 6 or whatever, who is making dinner? Who is helping the kids with their homework? Who is shuttling them from activity to activity that I keep reading is so vital for their personal growth and college prep. Do they stay in aftercare, making their days 11 hour days?  I am not judging anyone for their choices and I acknowledge I am so fortunate to not have to worry about this till now but I honestly don’t see how it is done. But I know millions of you do it, so please tell me. Husband is helpful but has a demanding job that is not flexible. So sick days and doctor visits and figuring out extracurriculars will be on me, realistically speaking. 
I’m starting to panic a bit about how much our life is going to change and how I am going to pull it off with only so many hours in the day.[/quote]

When the kids were younger than all day school we had an aupair who did their laundry. She worked all but 1 Saturday a month so I could go out with H or friends. I ran errands every Wednesday and/or went to the gym and/or happy hour. My H knew he had to do Wednesdays.

My kids did aftercare which is not 11 hour days, it's a school day with a built in play date after. Even SAHM's used aftercare because their kids were jealous that everybody was playing together after school. It's just a big recess.

I never worked till 6 I went into work at 7am and was home by 5. But I cooked M/T/W Th was leftovers, F was pizza or chinese or whatever. Saturday was usually date night or cook out or something social that involved food. Sunday H cooked.

My kids did 2 travel sports and we did carpools and most our coaches were men with jobs so practice was after work.

High school the kids are essentially independent with activities after school at school and kids get home at 7 or 8 pm.

We had a cleaning person come once every 2 weeks. 
Laundry went in every morning, home went in drying, then I folder before i went to bed, 1 load of laundry / day. Did sheets and towels on the weekend. I get up at 6am every morning naturally so 6am-8am or 10am or 12 (when they were teens) was coffee and "mom stuff"... planning, ordering Amazon (actually there was no Amazon I went to Target), grocery shopping (which is now delivery).

If you are worried about food get a meal plan for a few days a week.

You seem to be catastrophizing or making excuses. 
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