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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You just accept that parts of life are chaotic and your drop things that are optional. It looks different for all families. For us, DH and I stagger wfh so one of us is able to be there and get the kids out the door, and start dinner in the evening. On the rare days that we both need to be in the office, one of us picks up take out on the way home.

We also are realistic about needing to miss work for occasional kid stuff either pre planned like random days off school, or emergency like sick days and we divvy them up equally. [b]We are both gracious and respof each other and if one says "i just cant take off today" the other jumps in to make it happen.[/b]

We do have more extracurriculars than i expected, and we carpool when possible.

We have cleaners come weekly. Whomever is working from home runs laundry and does light clean up during the day.

There are times we feel like its impossible but most of the time its just normal life.[/quote]

DP, but wanted to add something similar. If something unexpected comes up DH and I will compare schedules. For instance if he has a big morning meeting and I’m giving an afternoon presentation, then we split our day. Or we will trade things around (e.g. if I handle this unexpected day off, will you handle the next teacher workday?).

This absolutely requires a spouse who is a good partner and values your career. I make about 45% of our HHI + benefits so neither of us is in a position to blow off our jobs without majorly affecting our lifestyle.

Either both jobs matter or you have 1 high earner and the other with a fun or part time job. You can’t have 2 co-earners and a default parent without destroying your marriage.[/quote]

I am a different PP and so agree with this. I make 60% of our HHI but we've leapfrogged around and DH has outearned me in the past. Both jobs matter (for income but we also like our careers substantively). This is a real split and it works for us because we have that mutual respect but also we both have some flexibility.[/quote]

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