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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Part of it is they’re trying to make you decide he’s not a fit. And it sounds like he’s not. [/quote]
This. They can’t outright oust him so they are wearing you down in hopes to do it yourself. I point blank told our school that whatever they hope I will say to my child, we already say every single day, and I don’t want to be bothered about non-violent and minor things my child says. [/quote]

To a parent it might seem minor. To the school, having potentially ten or more kids DC is upsetting (and ten parents complaining to teacher about your kid) with each incident - well it’s not so minor.  People pay for private expecting the school to not tolerate this kind of behavior and address the situation.[/quote]

Nail on the head. If I'm paying for my well behaved kid to attend a private school and they're coming home and telling me one kid is consistently causing disruptions and derailing class, I'd be pissed. Especially at age 10. I'd be more tolerant of it in early elementary but by 4th/5th grade it's time to get with the program or explore other options. Especially if he's been at the same school with the same kids for 4-5 years, I'm sure they're all over it too. [/quote]

Pp what sn does your child struggle with that has never impacted any other child? [/quote]

Inattentive-type ADHD + cognitive processing issues, thanks for asking? Have never had a call home for behavior. She's 2e and we opted for a private school with small classes that would minimize distraction and allow for individual attention. Her school has counseled out disruptive kids and I think it was warranted 🤷🏽‍♀️

And there's a big difference between "occasionally disruptive" and "daily calls home," again especially by age 10.

OP has said the school is a small private that focuses on SEL but is not SN. Consistent classroom disruptions are not going to be ignored in that environment, nor are they fair to the students who want a calm learning environment and instead the teacher is constantly redirecting a kid who's clearly not a good fit. [/quote]

I also have a 2e girl, that sounds similar to yours.  Honestly, I think girls present differently, so we are comparing apples and oranages a bit.  My daughter is in a strong academic private with a focus on SEL and Leadership development.  I've seen them counsel out boys and turn around a compliment my daughter, because she's quiet.  My daughter falls through the cracks while the boys are disruptive.  The parents of both types of kids have to be vigilant always.  That said, my older daughter was at the same school and was getting hit everyday on the playground by a kids that sounds a bit like OPs.  The best thing the school did was ask him to leave.  He ended up at an all boys school that takes kids with mild autism, adhd, and mild LDs.  I hear he is thriving in his new school.  OP need to be very open about his struggles when finding  a new school placement.  Those schools are out there and well within her budget.  He probably doesn't need a school explicitly for SN, but one that caters to mild SN and average to above average intelligence.  If she's in NYC there are plenty of options.[/quote]

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