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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Thank you"

Then you realize that people are trying to be nice to you.  You clearly don't deserve it.  What a self-centered shrew![/quote]

I want to apologize.  Now that I have read the other comments, I fully agree that you must be having some sort of post-partum issues and you should probably seek help.  It is fully irrational to be offended by such a nice compliment.  You should view your reaction as a red flag.[/quote]

Perhaps you should view your knee jerk response to tell a post partum woman that she does not deserve kindness and is a "self-centered shrew" as a red flag and ALSO seek professional help.[/quote]

It is a good point.  I am just really upset about people who are so self-centered that they view common compliments as offensive.  It not only brings negativity to the world in general, but it chills people from being nice.  I hadn't considered that maybe the new mom was generally a wonderful person who appreciates people being nice to her but is currently suffering from mental illness.[/quote]
Canned generic superficial comments are not "nice". [/quote]

Why are you assuming that it is canned and generic?  I would assume, if 10 people said it, that OP looks pretty good.  On the other hand, I fully fully disagree with your premise.  Try to bring good in the world.  Compliment everyone you see.  For most people, it brings a ton of joy.  People like you are just there to make life harder for everyone, especially yourself.  Learn to take a compliment.  Then learn to give them.  Frequently![/quote]

DP but I am very in favor of more compliments but also think it's good to steer clear of compliments about someone's body, as a rule. As this thread makes clear, some people like it and some people don't. You can be mad about this, but it won't change.

I think it's way better to pay a compliment like "aw, you are so good with him" or "I love that color on you" or something unrelated to their body or physical appearance. You are just less likely to offend. I know some people want the body compliments but to me it's not worth setting someone off or triggering some body image issues, so I just look for kind things to say that are unrelated to someone's body/physical appearance.[/quote]

Okay, police the words and make the people trying to be nice the enemy.  Some people are offended by everything.  Ten people tried to be nice to OP.  OPs response was fully negative and wanting to chill people from being nice.  This constriction of communication is becoming the downfall of our society.  This is exactly why there is more depression now than ever; people are being encouraged to be offended instead of complimented.  It is a horrible way to live.[/quote]

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