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[quote=Anonymous]OP, with your kids being so affected by this upheaval as well, the best thing you can do for them is to stay in therapy yourself and stay active in their lives (including being aware of who your ex is dating). You’re strong. Try to keep your thoughts clear, for them. Once you get to the point that you can detach emotionally with both your ex and her boyfriend(s), the more you’ll know you’re making good progress. Your goal: treat the badly behaving adults coolly for now (while stepping in to protect the kids if ever needed), and your kids warmly, always. The hard part is that you have every reason to be angry, hurt, grieving—but, the impressions made on your kids right now are so important. Don’t drag them into your reactions—save that for therapy. And try subverting your ex’s drama by making your life better in subtle but significant ways: eg, maybe get into the habit of going for a run or to the gym and eating healthfully. Save your sanity.[/quote]
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