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[quote=Anonymous]My DH had what I would call an emotional affair.  So let’s compare notes:

-texting into the night.  Where is your wife?  Next to you in bed?  Giving you a back rub that you asked for while you are texting the other woman?
Or are you with your family and while everyone is expecting you to engage with them, you are engaging with your PA?
-conversations about personal things.  might be fine, but again, all in context.  Have you turned your wife down for sex (that you barely have) in order to support your PA while she needs to talk to you?  
-Traveling together - Are you going out for more than drinks?  Staying out late?  Getting drunk together and staying up until 4am together?  Do you see her outside of work functions?
-How do you talk about her?  Or do you avoid talking about her?  Do you compare her to your wife or talk to your kids about her?
-Hand holding?  Not sure what to say about that.  Unless you are holding her up from falling, that is a level of intimacy that you wouldn’t share with your guy friends.

Emotional affairs happen when you are neglecting the relationship with your wife.  When that person becomes the emotional connection that you should have with your significant other.  It can be very close to a good friendship, but the difference is that you would have a very solid relationship with your wife and this is an addition to your life and not a replacement.

I am not sure if my DH (soon to be ex) slept with his emotional affair. After a while, I stopped caring about opening up emotionally when he was having that connection with someone else.

Other thing you need to watch for is a sexual harassment suit.  Holding hands, texting, etc. and then you give her a bad review.  And she claims it is because she didn’t want to hold your hand anymore or felt like she had to do these things in order to keep her job.  Everything is great until it isn’t.  And you have no idea what is in her head.  This is a dangerous line for a supervisor/assistant relationship.[/quote]

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