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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.

In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.[/quote]

Wow.  Just wow.  Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.

Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side.  We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times  - but that’s a whole different dynamic.  Grow up.[/quote]

Why so salty? [/quote]

Must be all the beach talk.

I kind of understand PP.  At what point is there no shame from adult children?  I understand if parents own a beach house…but in that instance I would plan to cook all dinners and/or take parents out to meals many times that week.

The way PP wrote it was as though unless parents pay for everything, they aren’t going.[/quote]

Why does there need to be shame?
Every time I’m out with my mom we have this big public fight about who is going to pay the bill. She always wins. Cashiers/waitresses etc always laugh because we make a big deal of it. 
She’s always wanted to pay. When my dad was alive we (me and my husband) weren’t allowed to pay for anything. It was a personal affront to my dad. My parents paying gave them joy. We plan to do the same for our kids. [/quote]

That sounds moronic.  You don’t have shame and therefore are fine mooching.  You just proved my point.

Maybe treating your parents every now and then is what decent adults do.

Why is paying for someone a way to give them joy?  That’s also a strange dynamic.
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