Anonymous
04/21/2024 20:21
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
I’m an adult who has been on some family vacations with my parents and extended family over the years. On one that was of significant cost it became clear that all other aunts and uncles were paying for their kids, my cousins, but my parents weren’t- we paid for the condo and out to dinner. It was frustrating to see all my other cousins being treated every time out to dinner and we had to pay our own way
Anonymous
04/21/2024 20:17
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Why so salty?
Must be all the beach talk.
I kind of understand PP. At what point is there no shame from adult children? I understand if parents own a beach house…but in that instance I would plan to cook all dinners and/or take parents out to meals many times that week.
The way PP wrote it was as though unless parents pay for everything, they aren’t going.
Why does there need to be shame?
Every time I’m out with my mom we have this big public fight about who is going to pay the bill. She always wins. Cashiers/waitresses etc always laugh because we make a big deal of it.
She’s always wanted to pay. When my dad was alive we (me and my husband) weren’t allowed to pay for anything. It was a personal affront to my dad. My parents paying gave them joy. We plan to do the same for our kids.
That sounds moronic. You don’t have shame and therefore are fine mooching. You just proved my point.
Maybe treating your parents every now and then is what decent adults do.
Why is paying for someone a way to give them joy? That’s also a strange dynamic.
Anonymous
04/21/2024 19:49
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Why so salty?
Jealous of friends with wealthy parents.
Financially successful adults pay for their children because they have more. Giving money to rich parents who are going to give an inheritance anyway is pointless.
Successful children pay for their poor parents who sacrificed.
Anonymous
04/21/2024 19:37
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Calm the f down. If you cannot handle opposite opinions w/o being such a dick, SM and discussion boards are not for you.
Anonymous
04/21/2024 18:42
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Why so salty?
Must be all the beach talk.
I kind of understand PP. At what point is there no shame from adult children? I understand if parents own a beach house…but in that instance I would plan to cook all dinners and/or take parents out to meals many times that week.
The way PP wrote it was as though unless parents pay for everything, they aren’t going.
Why does there need to be shame?
Every time I’m out with my mom we have this big public fight about who is going to pay the bill. She always wins. Cashiers/waitresses etc always laugh because we make a big deal of it.
She’s always wanted to pay. When my dad was alive we (me and my husband) weren’t allowed to pay for anything. It was a personal affront to my dad. My parents paying gave them joy. We plan to do the same for our kids.
Anonymous
04/21/2024 18:38
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:We won’t ever. Plan to cover a family vacation including spouses forever.
+1 within whatever we can afford
Anonymous
04/21/2024 12:17
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Why so salty?
Must be all the beach talk.
I kind of understand PP. At what point is there no shame from adult children? I understand if parents own a beach house…but in that instance I would plan to cook all dinners and/or take parents out to meals many times that week.
The way PP wrote it was as though unless parents pay for everything, they aren’t going.
Anonymous
04/21/2024 12:11
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.
Why so salty?
Anonymous
04/21/2024 09:38
Subject: When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?
Anonymous wrote:Spouse and I are in our mid-30s and parents still pay for vacations — not “big” overseas ones (because we don’t take them with our parents) but beach houses and similar.
In any case, I think you should definitely pay for invited significant others except for maybe something like airfare.
Wow. Just wow. Have friends like you and I think you always remain a bit childlike.
Spouse and I have never had a single vacation fronted by any parent, either side. We’ve taken both parents as a fifth wheel numerous times - but that’s a whole different dynamic. Grow up.