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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am wondering if there is any research on the question of what is better for kids:

(1) seeing parents in a low conflict, but low interaction and zero affection marriage (basically living separate lives under one roof, but with zero fighting); or

(2) a low conflict divorce.

I am currently living in situation (1) purely for the benefit of my kids. I am in individual therapy and my therapist didn’t seem convinced that this IS necessarily better for them than a low conflict divorce.

I am not aware of any research or expert opinions on this specific question and wondering if anyone else is?

As a child of divorce, I still think it would have been better for the family if my parents had stuck it out in (1), for the simple reason that I didn’t like living between two separate residences. This is a big part of why I stay.

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How can it be good for a child to be in a setting where the parents essentially hate each other.  At some point and, probably often, one of you will explode.  It's an unnatural way to live.

Your children never see affection or love with their parents.  In my opinion, this is a truly stupid idea. Get a divorce and this way both of you have the freedom to find love again.

Kids can stay in house and you and ex can switch off staying at house
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