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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP here. I wanted to add that my parents separated/divorced when I was 8 and I never felt abandoned by my dad moving out. So don't let the fearmongers convince you that your children will feel unloved. I knew that my parents were unhappily married. Once he moved out, the fighting/tension ended![/quote]

But you had a golden opportunity to be promiscuous, take drugs, and generally fuck up your life![/quote]

Not PP but an adult with divorced parents.  My parents divorced when I was 3 so I don't remember what it was like when they were together.  However, I must say they did do a fairly good job respecting each other and were usually on the same page parenting wise.  I was an honor student in school, graduated college at the top of my class, did not do drugs, did not smoke, did not drink underage, only had 1 sex partner (my DH), and generally have had a pretty successful life as an adult.  I have been married over 20 years so I think they still taught me how to have successful relationships even though they were not compatible as husband and wife.  I think for me the key was that both my parents did a good job tuning in for what was going on in my life and they both set high expectations for me.

For example, during my teen years if I went out at night, whom ever I was staying with would stay up till I got home.  Just a rule [u]both[/u] my parents followed.  Knowing I would have to face a parent when I walked in made me keep reasonably close to my curfew and I knew I would get busted if I came in high, drunk, or smelled like smoke.  They both came to parent teacher conferences, they both reviewed my report card and test grades, they both came to my sports games, and they both volunteered at school.  I had friends whose parents were married that did not have both parents as involved as mine were.  I knew people in high school (not the crowd I hung out with though) that had married parents that were into parties, drugs, smoking, and sex.

Being compatible spouses and being good parents are two different things.[/quote]

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