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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going through a similar situation (not Ivy related) with my daughter. Both DH and I are immigrants and have overcome a lot of adversity to be where we are now. It is frustrating when you see that your kid does not want to put in the hard work to succeed.

I guess OP's frustration is not only stemming from the fact that her daughter has no interest in applying to her ivy but she's more frustrated that her daughter is not achieving her full potential and is backing off because she may not want to work hard and put in the effort.

OP, if you truly feel your daughter has the potential to do well in the advanced classes but is just plain lazy, then push her and encourage her in whatever way you can. She'll thank you later.

If she truly does not have the potential, then let go and set lower goals for her that are more reasonable to achieve.

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Thank you for this. I think you understand where I’m coming from. It’s not just about a brand. It’s about the hard work to make a life.  And the sacrifices for our kids. And wanting the best for her.[b] She has the potential but not the interest it seems.[/b] [/quote]

And that means you drop it.

My husband played D1 soccer in college. 
Our son started playing, and my husband was ecstatic. Turns out my son was really really good - better than my husband was at his age. But…he just didn’t have the drive. He’d show up and play a good game, but was half hearted about the training needed to really succeed. Broke my husbands heart, but we had to let my son decided where he wanted to go with it. He ended up quitting entirely because he found another sport he enjoyed more.

Parent the kid you have OP. [/quote]

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