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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You try for the family you want around your dinner table in 10 years. Newborn stage is a blip in the grand scheme. [/quote]

This. My DH told me the same thing as yours. « Not my choice but I don’t want you to be unhappy so will follow if it is essential to you ». At the time (at 36 with 2 kids and some frozen embryos) I reluctantly gave up because I was afraid that financially it would be too much for us and would then create tensions in our marriage (DH didn’t care about financial stress but I knew it would impact our relationship to be more limited in our freedom).

Fast forward to now. I am 42, our financial lives has improved a lot (as could be expected but I was being conservative in my hopes). But now DH is 100% out as he feels exhausted and is too happy to not deal with young toddlers anymore.

And I really miss that 3rd one. Reading your post I really want to jump in your shoes and have the rambunctious bigger family I always thought I would have…

I will add one reality check : I also know that my life is easier than the life of my friends with 3. None of us are SAHM. But my house is calmer, cleaner, more organized, I have more time, I am more on top of things and I have more discretionary income to solve annoyances with money (cleaners, direct flights, tutors etc…), they are more harried. I still envy them.[/quote]

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