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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

It’s DH’s sibling’s child and we’ve had him since he was 2, so he’s very much part of our family now, and I’m not sure if reunification will ever be possible. I don’t think that’s the heart of the issue.

I do actually like my DH in general. I think he’s cute and he’s brilliant and we do have a lot of similar interests and I enjoy talking with him. He’s interesting and does well one on one.

Kids club isn’t possible for 2/3 of our kids. We’ve tried. We stayed at an all inclusive last year and they got kicked out of the kids club because they have behavioral issues and special needs. They can’t even be in daycare.

When I talk about going out and doing activities I literally mean, taking a walk into town, going to the pool, etc. Even galvanizing DH and my father to do these things is a huge undertaking.

I do give very specific instructions to DH but the instructions can never be specific enough. Examples:
-asked him to do laundry. He threw a bunch of stuff in there with sand and now the washer isn’t working and I’m worried the rental is going to pin it on us

-asked him to pack some snacky things for us in the bag since I was stuck watching the kids. We had fruit, crackers, granola bars. He instead took half a loaf of bread and threw it loose into the bag with a jar of peanut butter. No knife. Bread wasn’t in any kind of bag.

-asked him to run to the grocery store. He got maybe half the items on the list. So for example, he got cereal but no milk. He got Mac and cheese but no butter or milk. I had to go back. He said he couldn’t find the stuff.[/quote]

Where are you that you're at the beach in February with school-aged children? If you say you took this disaster of a situation to South America, I'm going to say that's all on you. How did you not know this is the dynamic you live with? Why on earth would you plan such a ridiculously intense vacation? [/quote]

Op here. Mexico. I guess I didn’t think it was going to be this hard. One of my kids has a hyper fixation on the ocean. We came here last year and he has talked about it every single day since. I guess I wanted to take him back. We had planned to come at Christmas but had to reschedule due to illness.

My kids are all water babies and love being in the pool/ocean. It’s one of the only things that seems to make them all happy and I love to swim too. I guess our life at home feels super hard and I don’t feel very bonded with my kids because our life is just a minute to minute exercise in survival and misery. I thought this would give me a chance to connect with them (or at least the one who loves the ocean). We took a direct flight, we got an Airbnb to manage sleep issues, we stayed in one location the whole time, we brought a grandparent to help, etc. I tried to set us up for success but yeah I was probably overly optimistic about the whole thing.[/quote]

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