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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you enjoy vacations with just your own family/kids at this point?[/quote]

I do though they don't happen much anymore since they are all adults. I was thinking maybe we should try a family vacation just our family to see how it goes. My husband likes the idea a lot. My kids are very independent and I realized in looking at those other adult kids, they seem to be much more dependent on the parents and very compliant. Whatever the parents said is pretty much what they did. I guess I am just not used to that.[/quote]

Some kids love to complain and do the opposite of what they’re told.
That’s not necessarily more “independent”.

[b]Independent would be proposing a cool new thing to do and seeing who else was in, then doing that. [/b]Not being belligerent all weekend on an extended family vacation.

Also, bringing along a SO is a whole bag of tricks in and of itself. [/quote]

Hmm, that doesn't sound independent to me. That sounds like a planner who is a little controlling, and it would annoy me.

To me, independent means someone who prefers to do what they want instead of just going along to get along. I have no problem with someone who decides to go take a shower and rest in their room after skiing, instead of joining everyone in the lodge for board games and snacks. If that's what they'd rather do, why would it bother me? There are times when I might do that too.

Also, why wouldn't an adult in their 20s bring their SO on a week long vacation? I think it's weirder to expect someone that age to NOT bring a SO on a trip like this. Especially when it's apparent that they are not close friends with the another adult kids on the trip. You only get so much vacation time at that age, I would have been nonplussed to spend 5 days of it on a family vacation with other families I was not that close to instead of with the person I was seriously dating at the time. And then what, when I want to go on a trip with my SO in the fall, I'm short on vacation days and we can only do a long weekend? I'd be pretty irritated by that, actually.[/quote]

Again, independent would be having the self awareness to communicate your “independent wants” ahead of time. Not ducking out over and over again, saying nothing until later, if at all.

Independent would be saying up front what you want, why, and open it to discussion for others to also join or to understand you want alone time.

Independent used as a new PC word for self-centered and uncommunicative is truly bizarre. [/quote]

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