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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you want and can care properly for them.

That will vary enormously by person. The right age for my first was 34 when I had achieved a career level that gave me six months of maternity leave and on-site childcare, as well as a plan to fully fund college.

I’m sure your kid will be thrilled to have student loan repayments hang over them for life so their mom could avoid being an “old mom”.[/quote]

+1. I had my kids in my mid 20’s and early 30’s and and while it may have been physically easier, the detrimental effect it had on our finances and my career progression was so significant, I would not recommend this path to anyone, unless you have a very wealthy family that’s willing to help. I feel like this isn’t talked about enough here and instead there’s pages of posters berating people for being granny moms and having kids past 40. [/quote]
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Its not that people are trying to berate others, more like recommending one option over other for those who have a choice. Infertility isn't an easy struggle, neither is raising special need kids, specially if you are getting older yourself. Medical science has evolved but we are still slaves of biological limitations. A lot of people are like JLo in their 50's but a lot also starts health struggles and those struggles aren't always caused by bad choices but also genetic or environmental.[/quote]

This is disingenuous BS. Everyone has seen the nasty posts calling older moms granny moms and saying their kids must have special needs. This is even in response to the many women who have stated they had kids late and they were perfectly healthy and neurotypical. Older moms are not even allowed to own or state their experience without triggered posters jumping on them and telling them they’re wrong. FYI plenty of young people also struggle with infertility and special needs kids.[/quote]

Student debt (yours or your childs) housing instability and career stagnation aren’t “easy struggles” either.

That’s why they’re called struggles.

Posting as though a child at 40 is doomed to a life of incurable disability serves exactly one purpose: to try to convince women to ignore the (probably excellent) reason they have for not reproducing before 40.

Because you’re not standing up and applauding the 29 y/o mother who gets mommy tracked and then can’t afford  tutoring for her neurodivergent child.

You’re not high-fiving the parents who can’t send their kids to college without huge loans.

You’re certainly not helping the single mother of three whose abusive boyfriend became her abusive husband but AT LEAST she didn’t leave him and find someone suitable before having children! 
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