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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You mentioned the apology letters in the past, but do you do anything else? How is he on weekends with other kids? Does he rough house with them ( it's hard to imagine this is a school only trend)? Watch him closely on the playground and step in and correct him when he is being too rough or no letting other kids have turns.

You said you are a teacher so I'm sure you can sympathize with the teachers in this situation. They probably have concerns that other kids will get hurt or don't get to contribute in class.[/quote]

OP here. I completely sympathize with the teacher! We go to the playground often and his behavior is totally within the realm of normal 4 year old. PPs suggesting my kid doesn’t know how to “treat living beings” are hilarious!!! I was you!! Now I have three boys. [/quote]

I have three boys and they are not allowed to tackle the dog.[/quote]

+1. I have threw girls and they would never tackle our toughly touch our dogs. The roughhouse with one another but have appropriate boundaries - so not at school. My eldest is also four and I have twin two year olds. Do not tell me this is a gender thing. This is about appropriate boundaries. OP you sound very invested in your liberal mom with a “real boy” shtick. You voting for Obama does not mean that you get to pull the boys will be boys card. And FYI roughhousing with the dog is a good way for your kid to get bitten. It won’t be as funny when he has a bunch of stitches on his face.[/quote]

DP. This is utterly absurd. All kids have energy and most boys at 4 are indeed like puppies and like to roughhouse. As long as nobody gets hurt and they all enjoy it, it’s great.

The problem is the school. [b]Teaching kids to observe boundaries is actually the school’s job[/b]. If the school cannot handle behavior that is within the range of developmentally normal, it’s a bad school. OP should not waste another second there. [/quote]

Nope. Sorry. Your job, Mama Bear (and Paoa Bear too, if applicable).[/quote]

[b]It’s not though. [/b]School is not home. The school needs to know how to set boundaries at school. Home can reinforce school behaviors but this school is not engaging at all in a way that would effectuate that connection. You can’t punish a 4 year old for something he did 6 hrs before in a different place - especially when some of that n
behavior doesn’t even seem like it needs a punishment.

This is an inept school bad for your kid OP. Get him out. [/quote]

It is, though. Kids learn how to behave, including in public, by the direction and boundaries taught by their PARENTS. Ever wonder why this supposedly “inept” teacher isn’t having this problem with all of the other kids in the classmates including the others with with — gasp — XY chromosomes?

Because OP is too busy waving away her kid’s negative (yes, negative) behavior with a litany of excuses.[/quote]

Just wait til YOU have the loud kid … trust me, your kid isn’t good in preschool because you have magic parenting skills. kids have different temperaments and some that are fine at home are not at school. and at the end of the day even if it was theoretically all OP’s fault, there STILL is not anything that OP alone could do. There actually are quite good ways to teach kiddos proper behavior in school, including through consistent home-school communication. [b]but notably all the school is doing is focusing on complaining. this is a bad school with no plan[/b] about how to address behavior that is still within normal ranges. this isn’t a kid who is hitting, running away, hiding under a table …[/quote]

Dp. How do you know the school is only complaining?

OP is the one asking about how the kid did at the end of the day. If a parent asks how the kids day went, naturally the teacher is going to discuss any incidents.

That doesn't mean that the teachers did nothing in the moment to address the issues, or that they expect OP all alone to address these issues.[/quote]

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