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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You mentioned the apology letters in the past, but do you do anything else? How is he on weekends with other kids? Does he rough house with them ( it's hard to imagine this is a school only trend)? Watch him closely on the playground and step in and correct him when he is being too rough or no letting other kids have turns.

You said you are a teacher so I'm sure you can sympathize with the teachers in this situation. They probably have concerns that other kids will get hurt or don't get to contribute in class.[/quote]

OP here. I completely sympathize with the teacher! We go to the playground often and his behavior is totally within the realm of normal 4 year old. PPs suggesting my kid doesn’t know how to “treat living beings” are hilarious!!! I was you!! Now I have three boys. [/quote]

I have three boys and they are not allowed to tackle the dog.[/quote]

+1. I have threw girls and they would never tackle our toughly touch our dogs. The roughhouse with one another but have appropriate boundaries - so not at school. My eldest is also four and I have twin two year olds. Do not tell me this is a gender thing. This is about appropriate boundaries. OP you sound very invested in your liberal mom with a “real boy” shtick. You voting for Obama does not mean that you get to pull the boys will be boys card. And FYI roughhousing with the dog is a good way for your kid to get bitten. It won’t be as funny when he has a bunch of stitches on his face.[/quote]

DP. This is utterly absurd. All kids have energy and most boys at 4 are indeed like puppies and like to roughhouse. As long as nobody gets hurt and they all enjoy it, it’s great.

The problem is the school. [b]Teaching kids to observe boundaries is actually the school’s job[/b]. If the school cannot handle behavior that is within the range of developmentally normal, it’s a bad school. OP should not waste another second there. [/quote]

Nope. Sorry. Your job, Mama Bear (and Paoa Bear too, if applicable).[/quote]

It’s not though. School is not home. The school needs to know how to set boundaries at school. Home can reinforce school behaviors but this school is not engaging at all in a way that would effectuate that connection. You can’t punish a 4 year old for something he did 6 hrs before in a different place - especially when some of that n
behavior doesn’t even seem like it needs a punishment.

This is an inept school bad for your kid OP. Get him out. [/quote]

The school is telling him and his mother DAILY that he is not doing a good job of observing boundaries. What do you want them to do aside from trying to curtail his behavior at school and reporting DAILY that he is not following expectations. Again, when you let your child tackle your poor defenseless dog and then say "but we don't give him sugar so we don't know why he doesn't understand boundaries" you are being obtuse. OP you are setting your child up to fail and then getting mad at the school for telling him he's failing. You should be mad at yourself. You are failing your child. And this boys will be boys stuff is beyond. When should we start having the same expectations for boys and girls? 7? 10? 12? 18? 36? Never? [/quote]

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