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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You split it so everyone is working roughly the same, irrespective of earnings. I say that as the person who’s earned between 90 and 100 percent of the household income for many years. When I’m earning 100 percent of the income, as I am now, I don’t think I should get a pass in any household chores. [/quote]

I am woman who has earned 100% most of the years since having kids. You better believe working all those hours gets me out of many household chores. My DH and children agree.[/quote]

You earning 100% means your husband is a stay at home parent.  [b]Obviously he does the chores in that case, because that’s his job.[/b]  This post is talking about two people who BOTH work outside the home for income.  So your situation is completely irrelevant.[/quote]

That bolded assertion is ridiculous.  Tons of spouses who earn 100% routinely shop for groceries, cook breakfast/dinner, clean up after meals, read to children, put them to bed, mow the lawn, put up the storm windows, clean the gutters, change the oil, wash the car, rake the leaves, drive to sports, give kids baths, you name it.

That doesn’t mean that it’s bad for the 100% earner to relax after work while the spouse scurries around.  The SAH spouse has plenty of down time while the WOH spouse is commuting/working, particularly with kids in school all day.

So dollar earnings should have zero to do with chore splits — it should be all about trying to provide adequate free time to each spouse and dividing tasks equally during waking hours not earning pay other than the adequate free time.
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First, anything related to parenting the children is not a household chore (so putting the kids to bed or giving them a bath is something a parent does regardless of their employment status).

Second, many people with SAH spouses CHOOSE to do some of the other chores you listed in their free time, and that’s great.  However, it does not make it a ridiculous assertion that the expectation is for the spouse whose job it is to take care of the home (by staying at home) is the spouse who is default responsible for those things.[/quote]

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