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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I absolutely believe there are parents who have very difficult babies. But I also know that there are parents who simply have a really tough time adjusting their lives to a baby and assume the baby itself is the problem.

FWIW, I'd wager more folks on here have encountered parents who fall in the latter category as opposed to the former and, as a result, resist the idea of truly difficult babies. Not an excuse, just an observation. [/quote]

As someone whose first child had (undiscovered)[b] medical issues that made sleep virtually impossible for the first 9 months, [/b]among other miserable issues, I totally agree. I learned not to mention anything to most people because their advice was comical. They definitely thought I was just lazy, didn't know what I was doing or a combination of the two. Having a 'normal' second baby has been so freeing. [/quote]

What type of medical issue causes a baby to not sleep for 9 months?[/quote]

I read this as sleep for the parents was virtually impossible.[/quote]

Yes, this. Baby woke every 30-45 minutes all through the night and took hours to go to sleep. Undiscovered milk allergy until 6 months (none of the normal symptoms showed up until he randomly had blood in his stool one day) and then had a cyst in his intestine that eventually caused a total bowel blockage requiring emergency surgery. Awful, awful first year. [/quote]

When I read "couldn't sleep for 9 months" I thought, "It must have been a milk allergy" because I went through the same thing. It is brutal, and nobody gets it. "You're spoiling the baby by holding them for naps", "Let them cry it out" , "Just put them on a schedule!" all things people "helpfully" told me.

I admire that you were brave enough to go for that second baby after living through that nightmare. Did you cut dairy at some point in your pregnancy as a preventative measure? Did your kid outgrow his milk allergy?[/quote]

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