Reply to Making an ADHD kid apologize to the teacher and whole class after a meltdown

Forum Index » Kids With Special Needs and Disabilities

Reply to "Making an ADHD kid apologize to the teacher and whole class after a meltdown "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve got a melter-downer. I think apologies are important when aggression or property destruction is involved. However it has to be part of an overall behavioral plan. I don’t like it when teachers seem fixated on the apology, and especially if they create more dysregulation by getting in a standoff about forcing an apology in the moment. I don’t like forcing the kid to humiliate themselves by apologizing to the whole class. The apology should go to people directly affected.

Also, it seems to be true that teachers want to force apologies out of the SN kids more than the NT kids. For whatever reason they seem to think they need to make more of a show out of it.  This can be really bad because not only is it discrimination but it can also create a downward spiral of behavior. [/quote]

This. Some teachers truly seem to believe that some kids meltdown more because, I don't know, they haven't been yelled at enough. So they come down harder on these kids and then when the kids respond by melting down more, they view this as evidence that this is a "bad kid" who has no respect, instead of as an indictment of their disciplinary approach, which doesn't work.

It's especially frustrating when, as a parent, you've spent years figuring out what works and what doesn't and they just do. not. care. I'm tentatively optimistic this year because after a bad year last year with a super rigid teacher who just wrote my kid off mid-year and didn't even seem receptive to discussing another approach, this year we seem to have gotten a teacher who gets that the best way to teach a rigid kid to be more flexible is to... be flexible. That's pretty anathema to how some teachers run their classrooms though. We're considering moving schools if we can find one with a more flexible approach to behavioral issues (not more lenient, we really want our kid to learn emotional regulation, we just don't think a super rigid punishment-based system is going to get her there) just because I don't want to play roulette with teacher assignments every year. It's two steps forward one step back. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics