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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would never do this either. It’s hard to imagine that money is so important to you. It’s not like he’s a deadbeat and not contributing. [/quote]

It’s very simple - I am going to have to work many years longer than I want to at a job I don’t love to compensate for his prioritizing his own interests over income in order to pay for college and retire comfortably. If either of us decides to leave the marriage, I don’t feel he should get half of the wealth I’ve built making sacrifices he has not made. [/quote]

You seem to be aware of your own resentment and your marriage's misaligned values. If you're that aware, why are you focusing on working on the financials and not working on the resentment instead? You are living with the full-on assumption you absolutely will divorce at some point. Why do that rather than get serious solo and couples therapy around the values and the resentments (he may have a few of his own)? Do you actually love him or do you just muddle along in an OK marriage focusing on your mutual incomes? It sounds as if you and he do  not share a love rooted in much -- did you both marry mostly to build wealth, have kids and...what else, exactly? You don't seem to paint a picture of an actual family enjoying being a family and looking forward to adding another child.

Also: Why have you always remained in a "job I don't love" while he is following his own passion? Have you and he discussed your being the one to move to a job you love at any point? If not, why not? Does he not realize how much you dislike your job and how you feel he gets to do what he pleases while you do what you must only to support him?

BTW, these are not questions I hope you'll answer here but ones to ask yourself and maybe explore with a professional. 
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