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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Narcissism is rampant in today’s society under the guise of “feminism”. You can be pro feminism AND kind AND support extended family. All I ever see on DCURBAN mom is selfishness to the core. If it’s not self serving, it’s called being “door mat” or “martyr”. What goes around, comes around is all I’m saying here. [/quote]

I think you can be feminist AND kind AND supportive AND not travel or host every year.
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This. I don’t understand so many people giving OP grief. It’s many months away, these are he DH’s PARENTS (so this isn’t unlike uninviting a boss or something the night before the event). Her DH should be able to have a frank conversation with his parents about what they are and aren’t up for doing.

DH, “Hey mom and dad. Not sure what you are thinking for the holidays, but I did want to let you know that this has been a tough year for us already - and summer isn’t even over! So we are definitely staying home for the holidays this year. And we’d love to have you join us, but there is just no way we can pull off a traditional holiday celebration. So you can either come, stay in a hotel and we figure out some easy food plans vs hosting something big, or we can hit pause and try again next year. Another option is that we plan to extend our visit to you next summer. Instead of 5 days, we could extend that to 7 or 8 days and maybe all head out to the lake for a few days.  Clearly no rush since December of far away, but I did want to give you that heads-up in case that means you want to go see Sis and her family instead this year.”[/quote]

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