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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not rude to neither host nor travel. [/quote]

It is rude if the deal was alternating and OP’s family is still welcome on their years. [/quote]

Alternating holidays is not a blood pact— it works if (and only if) it works for all the parties involved. OP is not required to travel, or to host, in the name of good manners if it doesn’t work for her. She SHOULD tell people soon so they can make alternative plans.[/quote]

But it’s not faaaaaaair.  Wah wah wah.  If one side of the family is difficult to deal with, they aren’t going to be treated the same. This belief that you have to treat all the extended family the same is childish. [/quote]

Convenient excuse if you just don’t like them. [/quote]

This doesn’t make any sense. If you don’t like your in-laws, and you’re seeing them *at all* then you’re putting in the effort and deserve thanks and appreciation.[/quote]

Lots of women on this board dislike their in-laws for no actual reason. [/quote]

So? They don’t like them. The reason is irrelevant. If they’re spending time—any time— with people they don’t like in the interest of making their spouses happy, and forging a relationship between children and grandchildren, they deserve thanks and appreciation. [/quote]

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