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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been dating this wonderful woman for last 8 months and things are going great. I am divorced and at the start she told me that she was divorced but in a recent conversation it came out that she is not fully divorced and it hit me awkwardly. We love each other, in a committed relationship, have introduced our kids as well and talked about moving-in together by next year. I asked her for the reason for not telling me correctly at the beginning and she mentioned a bit of shame and also that some guys don't want to date if woman is separated and not fully divorced. She has been living separately from her husband for 3 years and have filed for divorce but it is not final yet. Honestly, I don't care as much about a piece of paper as for my connection with her so wondering how big of a deal this is? [/quote]

It's true that some guys don't want to date a woman who is separated and not fully divorced.

Ask her to please explain why she thinks that being a woman who is separated and not fully divorced, and lies about it specifically to manipulate a guy into dating her, makes her more desirable than if she had been honest about it.

Ask her to please explain why you should be able to trust anything important she has ever told you or ever will tell you.  Things like:  "I didn't have sex with anyone else but you after we became exclusive."

You have only been dating her 8 months and she has been on her best behavior.   Her best behavior includes telling a serious material lie to fool you (or other potential serious partners) into entering into a relationship with her.

This woman will lie about anything.  You just don't know the extent of it.    You need to have much higher standards for who you date, bro.[/quote]

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