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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Personally, in most circumstances, no. If it was a long-time close friend whom I also know and they were both in the same town momentarily, sure, it makes sense.

Sadly, we had to rebuild our trust after a "friendship" turned into an affair for my husband. Incidentally, during the affair (which was long distance) he was much freer with other women, as well, i.e. not coming home from work on Friday until 7 because he was having social drinks with a woman he wasn't close friends with. I think after he crossed that initial boundary he just blew through it with everyone else too.

I may have been more understanding pre-affair, but now I'd need a pretty good reason for one on one drinks with an affairable person (stating it that way because not all men are only interested in women, not all women are interested in men, etc.).

That said, he has a business partner who is a woman, and they go on business trips together, etc. I know her, I know her husband . . . I feel fine about the situation. You can't live in a bubble and I certainly don't want my husband calling me "Mother" and refusing to engage with women in business, which is misogynistic and problematic. But if you're having drinks at 6 p.m. on Friday with some woman you barely know instead of coming home to your wife and kids, then we have issues regardless.

Long story short . . . I'm OK with "affairable" friendships if they're grand-fathered in (started a long time ago) or happen in a group/couples setting. But one on one and a new friendship, I would be very wary and want there to be a good reason.[/quote]

Women who use the word usually misogynistic have issues.   [/quote]

Which word?[/quote]

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