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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The beauty of many Christian religions is that they can be sinners but as long as they accept Jesus as their savior they will go to heaven.

They can lie, cheat, steal, fornicate and be a drug addict.

None of that matters as long as they accept Jesus as their savior they will be saved.[/quote]

This is exactly why I left Catholicism. Accept Jesus as your savior, sin (because you are human), ask for forgiveness, you are forgiven, sin, ask forgiveness, rinse and repeat. [/quote]

“Accept Jesus as your savior” is a Protestant concept.  Many non-Catholic sects teach that salvation once attained cannot be lost. Catholicism teaches the contrary.

As for asking and receiving forgiveness, Catholicism requires true contrition, a firm purpose of amendment, aricular (spoken) sacramental confession to a priest unless impossible, admonition/counsel, penance and absolution.  So it’s rather less simplistic than you attempt to present. Are you sure you are Catholic?

Repeated forgiveness is scriptural (“seventy times seven times”).  Do you hold everyone who has ever offended you still bound with no recourse?  Do you hold yourself still bound by all your own sins, with no escape ever?  That seems a sad way to live.

OP’s problem isn’t any version of Christian forgiveness and regeneration. As many posters have noted, her STBX sounds like a messed up person at least and a terrible cad at least, but she is stuck with him in her life as it relates to their kids. I agree she would likely benefit from a new church home and from some therapeutic work aimed at her trauma and the benefits of moving on insofar as possible rather than letting this man continue to live rent free in her head and heart.

OP, it is normal for a person in your situation to grieve and mourn, but there are better things ahead. Try to believe that. [/quote]

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