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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I have one incapacitated parent, the other barely able to cope with their care and running a household, and they have big money problems that were preventable. [/quote]

Both my parents and my in-laws crashed and burned financially. Their money problems were "preventable" in the sense that if I'd known about them ahead of time [i]and [/i]they'd cooperated, we could have worked out a far superior solution. But, they kept secrets from us, and they were stubbornly determined to stay where they were even though it made no financial sense. So, when we found out at 11:59 that they'd be bankrupt at midnight, there wasn't much that could be done to mitigate the situation.

You really can't stop adult parents from making bad choices.[/quote]

OP here. True. But then do they have the right to demand you fix it?[/quote]

They can demand whatever they like but your response is up to you. Dealing with your emotions around the situation could benefit from professional help. Put on your own oxygen mask, OP, before you ruin your own health and your own family. I would also be wary of gilding the lily too much re: the plan to move them in with you. Whole nother nightmare that rarely lasts long per posts on this sub. One which would directly and likely negatively impact your marriage, work life and children. Your parents do not sound like they would easily and seemlessly slot into your life/home.

Your sister and her mental illness/disability are another related issue, even after your parents are gone. [/quote]

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