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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, some people are really vested in proving that I'm at fault.

And this is what perpetuates these family dynamics. I said that you're only getting my side of the story. I said I was genuinely sorry, and I apologized. I wanted to move forward. 
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There is almost never a "nothing" in these situations. There is something. [b]Maybe accept that your sister sees the situation differently and could have been treated poorly when you were young but you didn't see it. [/b]My siblings are older than me - 10 and 12 years older - and it's only now that I have found out how much more of a burden they had when we growing up bc my dad died when I was young. It's not something I ever saw or understood when I was growing up but now that I am older and how it was for them has come out in bits and pieces I realize that I can understand why they would accuse me of being selfish, etc. I was but it was due to my young age and ignorance of adult issues. Now that they are older, they too understand this.

So, both of us had to accept that our perception and recollection of the events in our early years are vastly different but both were valid. [/quote]

My older sister was not treated poorly. She was given whatever she wanted. A new bike. An 8th grade graduation party. A new car. A sweet 16 party. A high school graduation party. The wedding. She married my BIL at 30. We each even had our own rooms, with just a connecting hallway, with a door to each of our rooms. We lived in a very old house. We had to share a phone line, and a we shared a bathroom. I just don't think my sister liked me. I don't think she liked sharing a phone line with me in school. My mother would make us wear matching clothes, like for photos, which my sister, I'm sure did not like at all. LoL. [/quote]

I think you are totally right.  Your sister did not like you and is not about to change her mind now.  Move on.[/quote]

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