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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's why I don't think it should just 100 percent be an issue of the child deciding.   Most people (kids included) will "decide" to just keep doing the thing they are already doing for a long time, absent some encouragement or incentive to do something different.  [b]That's why we encourage kids to potty train, right?  Otherwise, they're not just going to say out of the blue, hey, I'd like to stop going to the bathroom the same way I have for the past two and a half years.[/b]  Yes, if your kid is having a complete breakdown and your doc says it is ok to leave the paci, by all means take a break and try again in a bit.  But I would not say, oh, whenever she decides, and not continue to work on the issue.[/quote]

Funny, that's exactly what my DD did.[/quote]

There's a difference between encouragement and forcing a child to do something.  I encouraged my child to give up her paci, but I ultimately left it up to her to decide.  She made the decision when she was five, and felt very proud of herself for doing so.  I see nothing wrong with that.  [/quote]

We're in agreement, then, no? My 2.5 yo said she was ready to use the potty, out of the blue, with some encouragement but no forced training. We're doing the same with the paci. She's starting to talk about giving it up, but we're not going to force her. [/quote]

I'm in this camp, too.  We raised the issue and offered DD encouragement and perhaps slight pressure, but no bribes, ultimatums or cold turkey.  Our preference was to let her choose when she was ready, though we gave her regular prompts to consider the issue.

In the end, she was late with giving up the bottle (drank 2 a day until 2.5), the paci (used it to fall asleep until 2.5) and the potty (3 years, 10 months.)  And she's just fine.  In all cases, when she was ready that was it.  No drama, no backsliding.  Done.

To each her own.  I know many of our friends have a very different philosophy and it works for them.  This worked for us.  (Our pediatrician and dentist were both fine with it, by the way.)[/quote]

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