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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP it sounds like your parents set you up pretty well in life and you are now looking for reassurance that it's okay to not assist them in their final years. Now maybe you are justified in not helping them -- for example, if you are experiencing financial hardship yourself or they blew all their money gambling. It sounds like you view the relationship as transactional because you are referring to the ideas as "reimbursement."

My parents did not have the means to pay for my education, let alone buy me a house. I make a reasonable salary as a Fed but am certainly not wealthy. But I can't imagine not assisting, within my means, if needed. (And I have.) They never asked, but there have been times where help as needed.

You are not obligated to help, and we don't know your circumstances. [b]But if you are comfortable financially, I can't understand not being there for a parent in need.[/b] [/quote]

What if the OP's mother is over 80 and/or the OP's father is over 75? Shouldn't it be good enough for them that they've lived way longer than most people?[/quote]

[b]So you want your parents to kill themselves at 75/80? if they don’t commit suicide they should become unhoused if they can’t support themselves?[/b] I’m Caribbean we take care of our elders.[/quote]

If I planned on still being alive on having a high quality life at 75, this would be a really harsh and hypocritical view point for me to have. As it is, I plan on being dead by my 75th birthday.
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Please explain your plan to be dead by your 75th birthday.  Unless you have a terminal health condition now or intend to commit suicide when you are so elderly at 75, that is an ignorant statement.  [b]If you are in your 30s, 40s, or 50s and you think 75 is ancient and life will not be worth living then you are most likely wrong.[/b]  Did you actually go to college?  Just wondering.[/quote]

I was speaking for myself, not for anyone else. I'm 33 and the human brain is fully developed at 25, meaning that anything I've decided on right now is highly unlikely to change. My brain won't be anymore developed in 42 years than it is now. As for how I plan to die, that's very simple; all I'll have to do is stop staying on top of my health.

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