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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP it sounds like your parents set you up pretty well in life and you are now looking for reassurance that it's okay to not assist them in their final years. Now maybe you are justified in not helping them -- for example, if you are experiencing financial hardship yourself or they blew all their money gambling. It sounds like you view the relationship as transactional because you are referring to the ideas as "reimbursement."

My parents did not have the means to pay for my education, let alone buy me a house. I make a reasonable salary as a Fed but am certainly not wealthy. But I can't imagine not assisting, within my means, if needed. (And I have.) They never asked, but there have been times where help as needed.

You are not obligated to help, and we don't know your circumstances. [b]But if you are comfortable financially, I can't understand not being there for a parent in need.[/b] [/quote]

What if the OP's mother is over 80 and/or the OP's father is over 75? Shouldn't it be good enough for them that they've lived way longer than most people?[/quote]

[b]So you want your parents to kill themselves at 75/80? if they don’t commit suicide they should become unhoused if they can’t support themselves?[/b] I’m Caribbean we take care of our elders.[/quote]

If I planned on still being alive on having a high quality life at 75, this would be a really harsh and hypocritical view point for me to have. As it is, I plan on being dead by my 75th birthday.
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That's fine and your choice, but what does that have to do with others' choices and situations?  Are you suggesting that people put their parents on ice floes when they reach 75?[/quote]

Perhaps this quote from Natalie Babbitt's beloved children's book, [i]Tuck Everlasting[/i] can explain better than I can. This quote is spoken by Angus Tuck to Winnie Foster.

[i]It's a wheel, Winnie. Everything's a wheel, turning and turning, never stopping. The frogs is part of it, and the bugs, and the fish, and the wood thrush, too. And people. But never the same ones. Always coming in new, always growing and changing, and always moving on. That's the way it's supposed to be. That's the way it is.

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And everywhere around us, things is moving and growing and changing. You, for instance. A child now, but someday a woman. And after that, moving on to make room for the new children.[/i]

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