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[quote=Anonymous]OP it does take years for people to learn how to control their anger. I'm glad your DH is under medical treatment, but a lot of it is changing habits - which is a slow and tedious process.

I did not marry the man I was with who had anger management issues, but he did seek treatment while we were together on and off, and I did see results after about 2-3 years of therapy.

The question for you, though, is how he sees you. Does he see you as an equal? Does he respect you and treat you accordingly? Look, some of the little things get to me too - my DH likes to pretend that he is the smartest know-it-all and is critical of freaking everything I do. It drives me nuts and I call him out on it, but it continues, because that's who he is (I used to do it, until I realized it was making things worse, so now I am waiting for his behavior to improve). So his off-handed comments might just be his way to make himself seem in charge.

Are you in therapy? If so, can you talk to your therapist about your relationship dynamics and whether they are something you can live with or whether you need to be free of his negativity in order to lead a satisfying life? I think it depends a lot on your personality and one thing I'll caution you on, is being a doormat. But there is a fine balance between doormat status and being gracious and compromising in a relationship. So make sure he is taking you into consideration in his decisions.[/quote]

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