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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maternity leave sets up the paradigm that moms are the primary parent and household manager.

If dads  were expected and encouraged to take paid family leave and actually take care of the baby, it would go a long way to supporting a more egalitarian split at home.

[b]I’ve noticed my Scandinavian colleagues seem to have more balanced family responsibilities, [/b]and I think this is a big factor [/quote]

Funny because I’ve noticed the opposite.  In fact, so much that it makes me question their push for equality as simply a way to get women to do absolutely everything.  It seems even worse than here.  Here my friends at least are supported financially by their husbands.  My Scandinavian friends have separate bank accounts and live like roommates.  They even have 50% of the mortgage coming out of each bank account.  The moms are still in charge of the emotional labor.  No thanks!  [/quote]

A lot of this is cultural too.

Germany has great parental leave, free or subsidized childcare and "Elternzeit" where parents can split leave so that Dad takes several months off...but they still have a lot of expectations rooted in stay-at-home motherhood.

France also has great benefits, and a lot of working moms, but there's a lot of the "second shift" dynamic where hte moms do all the house/kid stuff along with working outside the home.

Parental leave and benefits are WONDERFUL and necessary, especially for both parents regardless of gender...but they don't solve underlying cultural expectations taht women do certain caregiving work.[/quote]

Unpopular opinion here, but I think European countries offer better parental leave benefits there because women are so screwed.  They simply require government assistance to survive after having a baby.  They are mostly on their own financially and how could you get by on $0 after having a baby?  The government is simply stepping in for what the men there refuse to do.  It’s also less expensive to pay low parental leave wages instead of providing childcare for young babies.  [/quote]

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