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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I are immigrants from a 3rd world country. My DH has always been the partner I wanted and needed. When we were childless, he supported my education and career and did more than his share of the household chores and financial providing so that I was successful in my chosen field.

When I got pregnant, he was my support in managing my GD and easing workload for me at home.  When we had our first baby, he made sure we were supported. He made sure that my parents came for the birth and lived with us for 6 months, and took care of all the logistics pertaining to that.  I wanted to breastfeed and he made sure that he took care of all the diapering, waking up and soothing the baby, helping with cooking etc, so that I could succeed in breastfeeding.

As I went back to my career, he and I, were on the same page as to what our priorities were. He was smart and insisted  that we outsourced what we could and then he also took care of the morning drop offs, evening nighttime routine etc so that he was spending the maximum time he could with the kids and I got a break.   I used to take a lot of the mental burden of planning things for the family, but he has always been the person who had my back and would pitch in or find people who could help us.  He believed in spending money to get  help and even with our tiny income we were spending on domestic help and other service provides.   He has always been with the program as I have shifted gears as a WOHM, WAHM, Part Timers, contract worker, SAHM etc.

Did I want an equal partner? No.  I have always wanted a supportive partner who had a very clear idea of what our priorities were as a family unit and who was pitching in to make our family successful. We happen to be Gen-Xers.  We are parents of millennial and gen-z kids.  I see the struggles that this thread is about playing out in our family in the younger generation.  My take is that the corporate culture and the societal culture of this country is responsible for this kind of communication breakdown between couples.

No couple with kids is thinking of doing it alone. Corporate policies and federal policies are very flexible for family requirements.  There are generous leave policies and flex work arrangements.  Family also pitches in, domestic help is plentiful and organized. No working woman is leaving her job because of lack of childcare - even during the pandemic.

I think it is ridiculous that US corporate policies are so  female and family unfriendly, that parenthood seems to be the worst thing that can happen to the ambition, wallet and harmony of married working couples. [/quote]

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