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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People understand quite a bit more now about PPD nowadays.[/quote]

+1 this[/quote]

This, for sure.

And also ... People see themselves in Clancy in a way they didn't relate to Yates.  The religion thing, the controlling husband, the number of kids, their lifestyle overall .... It was easy to "other-ise" Yates.  "I'm not like her, so I can blame her because I'll never be in her shoes" (which nobody ever said or loud, but was there).  Classic blame the victim response.  People look at Clancy (or at least the image of her life that she projected) and see someone aspirational.  Someone they not only can be like, but someone they would normally WANT to be like.  That makes them look for other reasons for the actions, to absolve her of blame ... Because deep down, we all know that we could be Clancy in a way that we would never see ourselves as Yates.[/quote]

No I don’t think all of us feel that way. [/quote]

NP here. I wouldn’t say I find Clancy aspirational, but after looking through some of her Facebook photos I’m struck by our lives’ similar trajectory including having my third baby who is 8 months old. From her wedding photos it looks like we married our DHs around the same time, and her photos are all loving pics with the kids with captions about how much she loves them. I’m also a working mom although not in nursing. I see someone like her and just wonder how in the world it got to that point. Presumably before marrying and having children, her husband had no clue she would flip and annihilate the family.

Obviously more could come out and she may just be an evil person. But her life just seemed so normal on the surface at least. It makes you wonder how someone can become so sick.

If I blacked out and killed my kids, I would certainly want to kilo myself when coming too. And it’s not like she’ll ever be allowed to help deliver babies again. Even if her husband forgives her b/c of illness, how could their marriage last? It is just so shocking to see someone lose their entire life in a matter of minutes to something so unexplainable and unexpected.[/quote]

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