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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here, while I appreciate the posters who are at least trying to help, even if they think I'm unreasonable, you're just rude. Instead of giving any kind of help, you just want to tear me down. Please stop feeling so poisonous.

To the pp who asked: his parents don't want to be in the DR (ew to ANYONE besides DH on my part!), but are insisting that they come visit at the hospital. Here is my compromise, as stated to DH:
-parents are called when I am admitted to hospital, they can come and stay at the hotel
-when I deliver, IF I feel like having guests, both sets of parents can come to hospital
-when we come home, it will just be my mom, if anyone, to stay the night, but everyone else is welcome to visit during the day for short periods of time
-parents leave after a day or so, and then come back up after a few weeks once we're all settled for a more extended stay, and can stay with us

DH/his parents want:
-to be notified at first contractions (even if I'm not in active labor) so they can drive up immediately
-come to hospital during labor, presumably stay in waiting room (no one has mentioned DR)
-have unlimited access to be in hospital room with db, regardless of how I'm feeling
-mom stay the night in the house, and parents to have full access of house during the day. I'm expected to use the nursery if I need privacy.
-parents to stay in the area for the entire first week

Again, I WANT to share the baby with his parents, I'm fine if they are around, come visit if I feel up to it, etc. I just want my feelings and desires to be considered. DH is refusing to commit to the "wait and see" approach-he says that if he can't tell his parents that they are welcome in the house and hospital room regardless, they will be upset and it's not fair to them. [/quote]
Holy crap. I was one of the posters urging compromise (even though I think you're in the right) but this is just beyond the pale. Sadly, even though people are saying "marriage counseling" I don't know why they would believe your husband will be receptive to hearing from a third party, when he hasn't been receptive up till now.

God. I am at a loss for what to suggest for you now, because some of the things they want seem so unreasonable on their face. I guess you can't go off to the hospital and tell no one at all? If only that were an option.

I am just sad that your husband is on board with this level of intrusion. [/quote]

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